MY PLACE – POETRY , AFFIRMATIONS & MORE

How can it be that years later, the hatred, the jealously and the spite of an ex partner remains so overwhelmingly present that the only weapon left to destroy their ex partner with is the children they had together!

Many call these actions and resulting abuse …. Parental Alienation.

Articles red flagging this very abuse as “one of the worst forms of emotional, mental abuse used”, can easily be identified with the growing numbers of articles readily available in as many forms of media as possible. People are outraged at this form of abuse!  Desperate parents do their very best to bring awareness to this issue, and so they should!

The emotional damage inflicted upon a child often results in potential life long damage, often causing irreversible mental health issues.  This is due to the alienating parents actions of  challenging the feelings the child has for the other parent by twisting truths, creating exaggerations about every day circumstances, and  inflicting guilt on that child should they have a great visit with the other parent. This is all done with aim to create drama (brainwashing I call it) and even worse, to create an alternate reality that is not even the child’s, this is where the mental heath issues occur.

This drama is created to ensure the child reflects a truth that only the alienating parent determines the truth to be, and not really what has happened. Eventually this child’s reality no longer reflects their own reality(such as the love they thought they felt for the alienated parent). Instead what was real to them is no longer real, what is their truth is now wiped away and replaced with the other parents perspective of the truth, as the alienating parent sees it.

Despite an uprising by children protection advocates demanding new standards of care be made to stop or intervene on this abuse, the fact is much will have to be changed before this ripple effect stops damaging children. What is happening now is a whole lot of nothing, despite the awareness and the proof offered by those experiencing this very issue.

Parental alienation a fact ! In spite of all the awareness about this issue, pleas for help are falling on silent , deaf ears. Many people simply choosing to turn their heads,  choosing to just “not get involved”.

My question is how do we stop it…how?

Truth is no one knows, even though the internet has been set ablaze with parental alienation issues pretty much setting the internet on fire. What we see instead is case after case of this “newest” form of abuse found in the writings of many alienated parents and supporters screaming for justice , even though it appears no one is really listening.

Its a well know fact that this form of abuse satisfies only the alienating parent, with the children being USED as an  “ultimate weapon” of payback meant to punish their ex partner. The payback is practiced till perfection hits… they wait for it, that statement of victory “I hate my…”, or ” I never want to see my … again”. I can imagine the smirk of satisfaction they have knowing their job has been done!

The signs and steps to full alienation are accurately described step by step on many sites, sadly not only helping those alienated to see whats happening, but also providing a “how to do ” checklist to ensure parental alienation can be maximized by an alienating ruthless ex partner.

The end result is broken relationships between children and parents, forged from lies and exaggerations of truths; doing nothing more than taking away that extra unconditional love that only another parent can provide, not to mention the loss of that parents extended family.

How selfish this is?

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The final stage is easy to see, a child begins to hate that parent they loved, often due to the inflated lies, false accusations and torment they suffer for ever trying to love their other parent, they are hurt, frustrated as they repeat those “brainwashed ” phrases in their heads not realizing those thoughts and words are not even their own.

The child believes what he hears in his head, and why not, someone that “loves” them worked very hard to place it there. The child makes every reason and excuse  for why the alienated parent abandoned them and how that parent is responsible and not deserving of their love, as though this will explain it all and somehow make it all better.

No it doesn’t explain it , does it?

In my opinion, this should be a crime punishable by law!

The victims are the innocents. They are left faced to suffer(often in silence) the rest of their lives due to the false realities created by a parent that in the end can only say “Yay I won “!

Fact is , we all know who loses, and its not just the other parent…its the child!!